So here it is people my first rant and tonight I am tackling an issue that I think is really, really…REALLY getting out of control. It’s time to talk about this notion of “it’s super ok to be as fat as you want to be and if you disagree with me then you’re not happy with your own body”.
News flash people: NOBODY CARES HOW FAT YOU ARE ACCEPT YOU! Yes it is fantastic to promote a healthy body image, and yes I understand that not everyone has the metabolism to eat three cheeseburgers a day and stay thin but accepting that you’re not a skinny person and being an unhealthy slob is not the same thing.
The messages we are putting out in the world are confusing as hell am I an sick to death of hearing about it all. My Facebook feed is chuck full of posts talking about how real women have curves, and only dogs love bones, and I swear if I see one more picture of Marilyn Monroe in that white swimsuit with “She was a size 14” next to it I am going to blow up a building. Thank you for constantly reminding me that the average woman wears a size 12, and thank you for letting me know that you’re a big girl and big girls do it better, but I’ve got something important to tell you…I’m not buying it. The average woman is not skinny so it’s ok for me not to be skinny too? It’s ok for me to eat poorly and not stay healthy because being big is the new cool? The other day I saw a promotion online for a new plus size swimsuit line and they were calling the two pieces “fatkinis”. This apparently is becoming a popular term on websites promoting healthy body images. A “fatkini”…are you effing kidding me?!
I’m gonna need somebody to explain to me how we are promoting healthy body images by implying that another type is wrong? Big girls do it better? Real Women have curves? There is this constant need to shout about how much we all love being plus size but then every other minute of the day we’re talking about workout plans, diet pills, magic teas, and juice detoxes. We’ve got Alli, Hydroxycut, Jenny Craig, Weight Watchers. There’s Nutrisystem, and Sensa, and QuickTrim with the Kardashians on all the bottles. So which is it? Are we happy fat people or not?
Saying that bigger is better and skinny is wrong is not the answer. The answer is realizing that there is only one of you in this whole wide world and that you have to get right with yourself in order to “do it better”. Now before anyone gets excited and starts calling me a hater of all that is chubby let me just go on record and say that I am nowhere near skinny and my jean size is 16. I am 5’10 and I am about as curvy as they come but I have every intention of working on my body until I reach a pant size and weight that I want to celebrate. I don’t need anyone to tell me what I should look like and that’s the message that should be promoted. How do you want to look? How do you want to feel? How do you want to walk through this life? Not everyone can be a size six but that doesn’t mean we tell the size sixes to get big like us so that we can feel better about how we look.
A person’s weight is an individual thing so why oh why do we all feel the need to make this a major social problem. I’m tired of hearing about it, tired of going over it with people. and I am certainly tired of people trying to convince me that I need to love me more. I absolutely love me, even if I weighed six hundred pounds I would love me but I would still know that I have no damn business weighing six hundred pounds. Healthy body image and overweight are not synonymous with one another. Celebrating being thick, and making excuses to not workout are not synonymous with one another. It’s time we started to realize the difference.
Amber Mosby…”Forgive me if I don’t get excited”