The holiday season has come and gone and here I am with my latest post. Let’s talk about Facebook. Ok I don’t want to talk about all of Facebook, I want to talk about the effect Facebook has on relationships.
Remember first dates? That frenzied effort of trying find out as much information as you can about the other person to see if your compatible was the main motivation…other than trying to get laid of course. There was that standard list of questions to get through: what do you do for a living, do you have any kids, longest relationship, what are you’re likes and dislikes, um what’s your favorite color? I don’t know about that last one, I haven’t been on a date in a while. Either way first dates can be a lot of work.
Enter Facebook…you can find out all the basic information about a person from their Facebook profile page. Information like where they grew up, their favorite movies, their animal preferences, family members, how many friends you have in common, the kind of music they like, even the books they read! The ease of access saves you all the trouble of quizzing a person and then you can like enjoy you’re $20 pasta dish and side salad. It can save you the time of dating someone you have nothing in common with and you can even get the heads up on whether they’re friends with your exes.
But now we gotta turn that coin over. The amount of Facebook stalking that exists today is unbelievable. People are looking each other up before they’ve even had a chance to speak to one another and then they come in thinking they know a person. It’s being used to spy, to create fake lives, and even to trap people. Facebook is being used to track people, to call people out in lies, and to use as a weapon. Now maybe I’m being a little dramatic but the amount of ridiculous drama I have heard about that started with “I was on Facebook and…” is crazy. People can go overboard. All the excitement of meeting a person and starting a relationship is ruined by the obsessive need to check up on people. My mother, who grew up in a generation without the ease of internet access, always tells me to look a guy up on “the thing” when I’m getting to know someone.
All in all Facebook is a troublesome thing. Social networks have really changed the way we interact with one another and I’m still deciding whether or not it’s for the better…
Amber Mosby “Forgive me if I don’t get excited…”